Handjob day

July 21 is “HandJob Day”, a reminder that touch doesn’t need to be complicated to feel meaningful. This position keeps things close, simple, and intentionally hands-on as we continue on our month to indulge in the simple pleasures. If you’re looking for something intimate and hands-on, this position focuses on guided touch and trust between partners.

One partner reclines comfortably while the other positions themselves close, maintaining eye contact and steady closeness throughout. The emphasis is on communication, pacing, and reading each other’s responses. Small shifts in body angle, breath, and pressure help guide the experience, with both partners staying engaged and responsive. No matter what we recommend, the best advice we can give is to speak to your partner. What do they like? To avoid overly clinical speak, try asking them by incorporating it into dirty talk. For example, try whispering in their ear something along the lines of… “Do you like it harder?” “Do you like this?” “How do you want it?” “Show me what you like”... You’d be surprised how well sexy curiosity works. 

Next, please remember a good lubricant! We know everyone is different, but moisture is one of those things a hand job really does need.  If you’re going hands only, no toys or condoms, our favourite would be Uberlube, a luxurious silicone lubricant that's long-lasting, odourless, and silky smooth or a water-based lubricant like Wicked, for a lubricant compatible with condoms and toys.

Finally, between a good lubricant and open communication, the hand job should flow, move between long strokes, to keeping focus on the tip. Alternating between firmer or softer grip as well as different tempos. Let your partner guide you to the grasp, speed and strokes that they love for the ultimate hand job.