Sexyland's
Health & Wellness expert
Get to know Dr. Lurve & discover the intimate advice you’ve always wished for.
Dr. Lurve is a love & relationship
coach, as well as a celebrity speaker
As Australia’s leading expert on all things love, Dr. Lurve specialises in
helping people navigate the science and metaphysics of relationships.
A modern-day cupid
She is the singular authority on how to make relationships work, supporting individuals discovering self-love, singles ready to find love, and couples ready to make love last forever.
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Training &
Certifications
- Bachelor of Social Science
- Bachelor of Teaching
- Postgraduate Diploma in Coaching Psychology
- Master of Science, Coaching
- Robbins-Madanes Coach Training
- NLP & CET Practitioner
- Certification Hypnotherapy
- CBT & Mindfulness
Frequently Asked Questions
Spicing things up in the bedroom isn’t so hard when you have so much variety at your fingertips! Whether you enjoy amping up the foreplay, wanting to experiment with bondage, trying out new toys, or getting familiar with different temperatures, there’s something for everyone when it comes to bringing the heat in your relationship. In the bedroom, you can start spicing up the relationship by first having a conversation about your likes and dislikes – listen to each other about what you each are comfortable with! You can start to introduce fetish items, fetishwear and lingerie if you’re dipping the toes in, or jump into stimulants that can bring the spark on! If you’ve got the room, why not add a sex swing to the mix? When you’re out on the town, make the night even more fun with panty vibrators and anal plugs that’ll create sexual tension well before you’ve gotten to the front door. There’s nothing more sexy than being able to spice it up with your partner and knowing you’re both having a fun and intimate time together.
Making a relationship work long distance can be tough, especially when you can’t experience the physical touch of your partner. You might use phone or video sex to get you over the hump and into the groove, but it still feels like there’s something missing. With the app-compatible Sexyland toys, you won’t feel the distance between yourself and your partner when you’re wanting to get intimate. From near or far, you can play with each other using these amazing toys, like the Lovense Lush 3 Wearable Egg and Domi 2 Wand Vibrators that use Bluetooth and the Lovense Remote smartphone app! With interactive toys like the Svakom Neo range, you’re able to have a hands-free experience that’s long-distance friendly using their FeelConnect 3 app. Whatever you like when you’re in the bedroom, it’ll be as if your partner is with you and along for the ride… you can wear it out in public and let them guide you, or show them what you’re feeling on video chat! Whether you’re 10 metres or 10,000 kilometres away from each other, you can still enjoy the fun of your partner’s touch as they control your toy.
Sex in a relationship is important, but what’s really vital is the intimacy and vulnerability that comes with sex and sexual activities. Most people will say after trust and communication, sex is next on the list of what’s important to have in a relationship – these are also great to establish before sex when you’re starting a new relationship! You want the intimate time with your partner to be a safe space, where you can trust each other and also openly communicate about what feels good and what doesn’t. This is where you can also start the conversation around protection and contraceptives, such as condoms, dental dams, and using lubricant for the best experience possible. When getting intimate with your partner, using toys that can assist both of you to have a great time can be ED-aids like cock rings, penis pumps, sleeves, and hollow strap ons! These might help you and your partner bridge the gap and get more comfortable and confident with each other. Plus there are some awesome products to help women feel more confident too, such as dilators and kegel exercisers that can make sex a more pleasurable and fun experience.
It can be hard to start the single life again after being in a long term relationship, especially when the amount of consistent sex you’re having may go from 100 to zero. Single life doesn’t have to be all gloom and doom however – who needs the real thing when you can have toys to do the work with you and get you to the O-Zone every single time! It’s time to reclaim your orgasms and get back on the saddle (literally) with sex toys like rabbit vibrators, wand vibrators and dildos! For the people who have penises, fear not, there’s toys for you singles too! Why not dip your toes into a male masturbator or prostate stimulator to get that extra sensation you’ve been craving? Vagina owners and penis owners, if you want more life-like sensations, you can try Fleshlight girls that come in different shapes, sizes and vagina or anal toys, or give the realistic dual-density dildos a go.
You might have had a rocky few weeks or months with your partner and you’re wondering where to take things from here, and how you can bring the intimacy back into your relationship. Rekindling love and intimacy with your partner is about opening the barriers of communication, and that can be an opening for introducing something new to your sex lives. Enter: sex toys! Sometimes just having the conversation about sex toys can get you in the mood, and it can help open up and actively listen to your partner’s needs and wants in the bedroom. This can help you figure out exactly what product or toy you think will help. You don’t need to go the whole-hog right away, even bringing in toys such as bodywands, rabbit vibrators, finger vibrators and beginner-friendly BDSM items can help rekindle things. Surprising your partner with a new toy can help bring the intimacy back, it could be something as simple as using handcuffs on each other or blindfolds and playing some teasing games! It’s about learning to trust each other again and getting intimacy back on the books.
Relationship intimacy is directly linked to trust and how you communicate, so being able to trust your partner in the bedroom is key to trusting them outside of the bedroom too. Rebuilding trust can be hard especially after some sort of betrayal or breaking of that trust has happened; it’s important to be gentle in your approach and make sure you are both taking small but significant steps to regain trust. When it comes to the bedroom trust, you might want to try incorporating BDSM into the mix, one of you could release your control while the other person has the power. Changing up dynamics in the bedroom can have a dramatic impact on your trust, as one person might be put in the other’s shoes. This can assist in rebuilding trust and empathy – plus you can make it fun and naughty. Don’t be afraid to try remote controlled or Bluetooth controlled toys and beginner-friendly BDSM like blindfolds, restraints and handcuffs.
It’s great to have a little spice into your daily life; it allows you to get closer to your partner each day without having to go all out once a week or fortnight! There’s nothing like coming home from a long day of work and having a candlelit dinner – except the candles are actually warm-drip candles to use on each other after dinner. Other ways you can incorporate a little kink into your sex life can be using chokers and over-the-door sex swings to amp things up. For a bit of foreplay action, the feather tickler can be just enough to get you in the mood and have you on the edge waiting for more. If you both want to get a little more BDSM into the routine, why not look at the Sexyland bondage kits, whips and ball-gags to bring out the mischievous in you.
Everyone starts at zero, so it’s important to slowly introduce sex toys into the bedroom routine and make sure you’re comfortable with what comes next. If you’re introducing sex toys with a partner, this starts with communicating about your likes and dislikes, plus what you might want to try and how to keep the communication lines open! Creating a safe space for each other to explore your sexuality is vital before any toys are introduced. For beginners, getting familiar with lubricants and stimulants are a great foundation; it helps you get into the mindset of expanding your sexual pleasure without diving right into the deep end of sex toys. You can start looking at what kind of sensations you like and look at products that suit – such as body wands and rabbit vibrators. There are plenty of non-phallic vibrators if you want something less penetrative, or find toys that suit both you and your partner that stimulate simultaneously. This can include vibrating cock rings and strap-ons. Choose toys you’re both comfortable with and let the fun begin!
It can be a little daunting when you have certain fetishes and fantasies but unsure of how to bridge that conversation with your partner! The best way to start bringing your fantasies to life is to sit down with your partner and ask them if they have any fetishes or fantasies themselves. You might be surprised that by opening the floor to that conversation you could have something in common, or at least be open to trying new things for each other. While your fetish can be as small or big as you like, Sexyland has something for everyone! Alongside the huge range of kink and BDSM items like cuffs, restraints, whips and spankers, gags and fetish wear for those who love the leather feel, they also have costumes that can satisfy any fantasy. From school girl outfits to teachers, nurses, police and more, plus there’s lingerie for both men, women and gender neutral preferences! If your fetish is around anal play, there’s plenty of anal plugs and prostate stimulators as well as strap ons and pegging sets that are beginner friendly. When the fantasy extends to outside of the bedroom and you want to have some public play, their range of remote controlled and app controlled toys, panty vibrators and anal plugs are always a good purchase.
Something that often comes up even with younger men these days is that some struggle to last a long time in the bedroom. While people with vaginas can have multiple orgasms and climax consecutively, people with penises are sometimes only able to reach their peak once during a sexual experience, which is normal! Many people want to have a longer, more intimate time with their partner in bed and keep the passion going – and Sexyland has a few solutions for that. With things like Delay Condoms that help penis owners last longer, to Jo Prolonger and Superhero Spray, there are so many ways to experience a night full of passion with your partner. There is also a range of numbing and delayed items and lubricants that can be used to help slow things down while you speed things up in the bedroom. Plus, combining these things with toys that you love can help create an intimate experience without penetration! Whether you want to prolong your foreplay or give your partner a longer-lasting journey to the O-Zone, Sexyland has you covered.