Cunnilingus

October is all about getting curious, trying something new and learning what makes you and your partner feel good. So, why not turn your attention to one of the most intimate forms of pleasure and learn how to make cunnilingus feel more comfortable, confident and enjoyable for everyone involved?

The best place to start is with communication. Everyone has different preferences, so don’t assume you already know what your partner likes. Ask questions, listen to their answers and pay attention to their reactions. You can even have a conversation beforehand about what they enjoy, what they would like to try and anything that’s off the table. Taking away the pressure to simply “get it right” can make exploring together much more fun.

Feeling comfortable is important too. Take your time, get yourselves settled and create an environment where you both feel relaxed. If you’re new to giving or receiving cunnilingus, there’s no need to rush. Start gently, check in and let your partner guide you towards what feels best for them.

And remember, communication doesn’t have to stop once you get started. A simple “Is this good?”, “More or less?” or even a little direction can make a big difference. Encourage your partner to tell you what they like, and don’t be afraid to adjust as you go.

If you’re exploring oral sex with a new partner, it’s also worth having a conversation about sexual health and protection. Dental dams and other barrier methods can help reduce the risk of STI transmission while still allowing you to explore together.