Bondage & kink toys
Ready to unleash your wild side? Sexyland is home to all things kinky, including BDSM toys, fetishwear, and all kinds of restraints to bring your bondage ideas to life! Whether you’re a newcomer to the world of kink or an experienced enthusiast, our huge collection of fetish sex toys and BDSM gear is sure to tease, please, and delight as you delve into your deepest desires…
Kinky fun for everyone
BDSM play is open to all who are interested in kink and want to explore their sensuality, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, relationship status, or experience level. Not only can your kinky ideas spice up bedroom fun, but mindful kink can provide a sense of psychological release and freedom of the mind, body, and soul! The endlessly creative possibilities with BDSM toys will open new avenues of pleasure as you revel in the feeling of dominating a lover, or relinquishing control and submitting to their desires…
Consent & communication
BDSM can be an incredibly liberating experience and deepen the bond between
partners, but the key to making a scene work is to ensure everyone has established consent and boundaries before play begins. Communicate what you want to get out of the scene, how you want to feel/be made to feel, and what your physical and/or mental limits are, including when it comes to kinky toys and accessories. Don’t forget to discuss your safe words, both verbal and non-verbal if there are gags involved!
Types of BDSM play
‘BDSM’ is an umbrella term for all things Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism (enjoying
inflicting pain/enjoying having pain inflicted upon you), and it covers many kink types. For example, bondage involves limiting one’s ability to move with ropes, cuffs, or restraint kits while Discipline-lovers indulge in impact play with floggers, spanking paddles, whips, and crops to deliver cathartic punishment. Not all BDSM involves pain though — gags, collars, and leashes help ensure obedience, sensory deprivation with blindfolds enhances sensitivity, and sensation play with feather ticklers, drip candles, and medical pinwheels is a great source of painless stimulation!
Not sure where to start? We’ve all been there.
With so many options to choose from, picking your first sex toy as a beginner can feel overwhelming, but not to worry!
Our friendly Fun Specialists are always available to help in-store or via our Live Chat, and each product has a tailored online description to give you all the information you need to find your perfect sex toys.
A safe word is a signal that anyone can use during a BDSM scene to communicate that they want to pause or stop, and having one is an
important part of informed consent. It’s best to discuss your safe words with your partner(s) before play starts so everyone knows what they mean and how to proceed if one is used. Some people have a series of safe words to indicate different levels of comfort (e.g. green = keep going, yellow = I’m nearing my limit, red = stop and check in with me) while others pick just one word that’s unlikely to come up organically during the scene. If the scene involves not being able to speak, such as while using a gag or BDSM hood, we recommend having a non-verbal safe word too, like tapping your partner 3 times or holding onto your keys and jingling them when you want their attention.
Not always — BDSM is more about your mindset rather than physical actions like tying someone up or striking them with kinky impact play toys. Pain can be used for physical and/or emotional catharsis (within your pre-discussed boundaries of course), but pain for the sake of inflicting or experiencing pain is not and should not be the end goal of any BDSM or bondage scene. For thrilling sensations that aren’t pain-related, try temperature play with cooling and warming lubricants and toys, or heighten sensitivity to the stimulation you already enjoy with sensory deprivation blindfolds, masks, and hoods!
Bondage for beginners can involve all the same beauty and fun as bondage for advanced kinksters, with the only difference being how intense the experience is. You can start with beginner- friendly BDSM gear like fluffy handcuffs, which are fun, comfortable, and require less upfront investment than metal, leather, or silicone cuffs. For non-locking options, Velcro-closure cuffs are quick and easy to get in and out of. If you’re nervous about knots, keep a pair of bondage safety scissors close by to quickly release a restrained person, or skip the rope entirely and use bondage tape instead!
In a nutshell, cock and ball torture is a sexual activity that involves subjecting male genitals to varying degrees of discomfort, such as crushing or stretching the testicles, chastity play (limiting the person’s ability to masturbate or have sex), and sounding (inserting a rod into the urethra to stimulate the interior). While some forms of CBT like ball-stretching and urethral sounding can feel pleasurable, CBT should always be practised with care to ensure the participant’s health and safety. Always listen to your body, avoid excessive pressure or tightness that can cut off circulation, and only use toys specifically designed for CBT purposes, such as ball stretchers and dividers, penis-friendly urethral sound devices, and body-safe cock cages.
Any room can be a sex room without sex furniture if you’ve got some creative kinky ideas! Under-bed restraints and sex swings can turn any room into a pleasure playground, or you can enjoy kinky toys outside the home like discreet panty vibrators if you’re into public play. However, if you have the space, larger items like sex chairs and sex machines are perfect for exploring advanced restraint play and bondage scenarios.
