Warm Up This Winter With BDSM Play
01 July 2025
Hey y’all! It’s Nora Jo here again to talk about you guessed it, hot BDSM bondage gear, and kinky adult toys that are sure to beat the chill and turn up the heat in the bedroom! Here are some of my favourite ways to stay wickedly warm in the winter, as well as my top picks for bondage restraints and sex toys for couples and singles to get their freak on in the frosty season… 😉
How can BDSM help couples stay warm and connected?
In last week’s blog article about why winter is perfect for hot sex, we discussed how winter inherently encourages intimacy and connection between partners due to the lower levels of sunlight we see and physical warmth we feel, which encourages us to seek out emotional sources of light and warmth instead. As someone who lives with chronic depression, I don’t notice much of a difference in my mood during the time of year when SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) would be most intense, but I’ve been lucky enough to have a great support network of friends and family year-round, and a partner/s to cuddle in the colder months when I need to leech another human’s warmth to heat up my ever-freezing hands, among other things…
Engaging in BDSM can provide both physical and emotional warmth through new sensations like spanking or temperature play, and the deep, intimate bond of trust that’s inherently present between partners during BDSM play. BDSM for couples isn’t just about dominance and submission; it’s about exploring boundaries, building intimacy, and creating new experiences together based on trust, communication, and enthusiastic consent, and what could be better for giving you the warm and fuzzies inside?
What BDSM toys work best in winter?
Impact play toys
Have you ever noticed that your hand feels warm after a particularly good high-five? That’s because the body’s natural response to impact is an inflammatory response, which creates redness and heat as the body increases blood flow to the area to initiate the healing process. The same principle applies to spanking, flogging, and other kinds of impact play!
My advice before getting started is to warm up the recipient’s skin by rubbing it and giving some light, playful taps before you jump straight into the hard smacks. This will help to lessen the intensity of the temperature difference between cold skin and the sudden shock of warmth with each impact. The same goes for any temperature play implements like drip candles.
Speaking of warming up, this riding crop is a great choice for that! It has a hand-stitched dual-layered design that amplifies the sound of the impact without requiring more power behind the swing so you can enjoy a louder smack without the strong sensation of impact, making it an ideal choice for BDSM beginners too!
Sexyland Leather Spanking Paddle
This classic spanking paddle keeps things simple and is perfect for delivering sharp smacks or rubbing your lover's skin soothingly. The sleek and unfussy design lets you jump straight into the action, and the wrist loop means you can hang the paddle up for easy storage when you’re done, win-win!
Yiwu Striped Suede Leather Mini Flogger
In the cold, I find that a deep, thuddy impact feels nicer than a sharp sting (but to each one’s own), and if you share this sentiment, then this compact flogger is the one for you. It’s made from velvety suede leather that delivers a surprisingly deep thud proportionate to its size as the dozens of soft falls rain down on your lover's skin. You can drag the tails slowly across your sub's skin to provide a gentle tickling sensation if you're feeling merciful, or bring the flogger down hard for a more punishing impact.
Metal adult toys
There are lots of sex toy materials to choose from, and metal is one of the more underrated options in my humble opinion. Not only is it super-hygienic and easy to clean, it’s also good at holding temperature changes, making it a perfect choice for safe and easy temperature play, just dip your toy into warm or cool water, or wrap it in a warm or chilled towel beforehand and you’re ready to go! This works for metal butt plugs, cock rings, floggers, and more, so don’t be afraid to get creative… 🔥❄️
Leto Stainless Steel Wartenberg Pinwheel
This metal pinwheel delivers a delightfully tingly feeling against your skin as the pointy (but slightly rounded teeth) roll gently over your body. The sleek pins lightly prickle against your skin to awaken your senses and keep you on the edge of your seat as you indulge in the sensations, which you can amplify with temperature play!
Sexyland Charm Rose Gold Metal Butt Plug
This cute anal plug adds a touch of romance to your rear with its sophisticated coppery rose gold hue and heart-shaped gem, which also doubles as an easy-pull handle for simple removal once you’ve had your fill of fun! It’s available in a small, medium, and large size to suit your experience level and desires, but regardless of where you’re at, always remember to use a generous amount of anal lubricant. Since the Sexyland Charm plugs are made of non-porous metal, you can use any lubricant base, including silicone-based anal lubricant for that superior, long-lasting glide.
Sex & Mischief Filigree Metal Sensory Fingertips
These sensory fingertips enhance your touch or a lover’s by simply slipping over your fingers and lengthening your touch to a tapered, elegant point for precise positioning on the recipient’s skin. I own a set of these and can personally attest to how much fun they are, with or without the extra element of temperature play… 😏
Warming adult toys
Did you know that sex toys can do more than just vibrate? Some of them have warming motors built in that heat up to toasty temperatures that are slightly hotter than body temperature so you can feel the difference whether they’re against your skin or inside you! This is a great way to indulge in temperature play without having to deal with messy wax or pre-planning having bowls of hot water nearby to dip metal toys, floggers, or towels into. Here are some of the best warming adult toys available to buy at Sexyland:
Lovense Osci 3 App-Compatible Oscillating Heating Rabbit Vibrator
This brand-new rabbit vibrator comes from the same people that brought you adult toys like the ever-popular Lush 3 G-Spot Egg Vibrator and is also compatible with the Lovense Remote app for all kinds of fun shenanigans through your phone, or a partner’s! The possibilities for long-distance or short-range play are endless if you want to put the wearer’s poker face to the test at the dinner table and remind them that someone else is in control…
In terms of the toy itself, the ergonomically curved, firm shaft has been designed for easy insertion, perfect pressure, and optimal positioning (and as someone who has personal experience with the Lush, I’m pretty confident that the Lovense team nailed the G-spot head on the Osci 3). Once the bulbous head is in place, the oscillating pad works its magic against your G-spot, instead of traditional vibrations, there are 9 modes of thumping that reverberate back and forth at up to 6,000 oscillations per minute, delivering the ultimate internal pleasure!
For an extra layer of deliciousness, the G-spot head also warms up to body temperature in just 60 seconds, ensuring penetration feels natural and comfortable, no more shockingly cold silicone in the dead of winter!
Sexyland Ignite Warming Prostate Vibrator, Ball Cradle & Cock Ring
If you have a prostate, this is one of Sexyland’s best adult toys for you! The Ignite’s unique 3-in-1 design will keep you harder for longer while stimulating both your P-spot and your testicles. A ribbed, bulbous head provides internal stimulation while dotted manta ray-shaped wings at the base wrap gently around your testicles to deliver external delights. Dual motors buzz away in 9 vibration modes, alternating between focusing solely on the prostate or the testicles and stimulating both at the same time. When you’re ready for more, hit the W button to fire up the warming feature and indulge in a pleasantly toasty experience down there!
Pretty Love Antony Youth Warming Wand Vibrator
When it comes to sex toys for couples, nothing is more versatile than a wand vibrator, especially when it comes to BDSM and bondage play, pair a vibrating wand with some bondage restraints and you’ve got the perfect forced orgasm or orgasm denial setup! This purple pleasure powerhouse does it all with its cordless design that’s easy to navigate over your body or a partner’s. The warming silicone head heats to a toasty 48° Celsius for a comforting sensation and delivers 7 heavenly vibration patterns for you to enjoy! If you discover a go-to pattern that you just can't get enough of, the clever memory chip inside the vibrator will remember it for you and resume on it the next time you come back for incredible starts to playtime, every time.
Bondage sets
Sure, being strapped down to a bed spread-eagled might not sound like it’ll be the warmest situation, but trust me, these bondage sets will enhance everything listed above 😘
Winyi 13-Piece Faux Leather Bondage Kit Bag
This bondage set is perfect for couples who want to start exploring restraint play, sensory deprivation, and discipline. It comes with dedicated wrist and ankle cuffs with two connectors, a collar and chain leash, a spanking paddle, a silicone ball gag, an eye mask, and extra rings for compatibility with bondage rope and other accessories for a comprehensive, all-in-one kink experience!
Fetish Fantasy Series Bed Bindings BDSM Restraint Kit
Under-bed bondage restraints are one of the top must-have kinky toys for couples, and this one is perfect for those of us who aren’t fortunate enough to have bedposts, all you need is a mattress and two (or more) willing participants! Once the submissive is tied down, their body will be exposed to their lover’s touch and completely at their mercy, helpless, and right where the Dominant partner wants them…
Sportsheets 5-Piece Hog Tie & Cuff Set
Not ready for the full kit and caboodle when it comes to BDSM bondage gear? Not a problem. A hog-tie cuff connector set is a relatively beginner-friendly way to put somebody in a deliciously helpless position where all of their limbs are restrained. To get out of the hog-tie position quickly and easily, these cuffs secure with Velcro closure so there are no fiddly buckles or knots to deal with in the heat of the moment.
Ready to get your freak on? Browse kinky toys at your nearest Sexyland store or shop BDSM bondage gear at our adult store online and get 2hr Delivery on selected bestselling bondage toys so you can spice up your night, any night of the week!
Now get out there and get hot and bothered this winter.
NJ xx
