Top Tips for Masturbation

Masturbation May is the perfect time to rock your body and your world with the self-love you deserve! Whether you’re starting from scratch or are well-versed in the intricacies of your own intimate pleasure, it never hurts to get back to basics on how to masturbate and revisit your techniques to see if they’re still what you enjoy best.

And of course, it doesn’t have to be all about genitals as there are lots of hot spots from head to toe that can open doors to new sensations, including some pretty unexpected erogenous zones! Here are Sexyland’s top masturbation tips and toys to keep things interesting, no matter what strokes suit you folks… 😉

How to masturbate

For women and people with vaginas

For vulva-havers, there are lots of methods of how to masturbate as there are external and internal parts of the body you may want to stimulate, so it’s really up to you whether you’d rather keep it outside your body or if you want to explore yourself internally, depending on what feels best for you and what you’re comfortable with.

While penetration is often the first thing people think of when considering how to masturbate as a woman or person with a vulva, clitoral stimulation is how many folks regularly orgasm (and can sometimes be the only way someone can reach the finish line if they can’t orgasm with penetration alone). In fact, the pleasure zone everyone talks about for vulva-owners is the clitoris, which actually extends several centimetres into the body, though the part you can stimulate from the outside is a super-sensitive, bean-like bump. This external ‘glans’ lives above the urethra and vaginal opening behind the clitoral hood, which acts like a protective cloak of sorts and can be gently pulled back to expose the external ‘glans’ part of the clitoris. Rubbing the clitoris from side-to-side, up-and-down, or in circular motions can result in clitoral orgasms that feel very deep and have ripple-like effects all over your body, so it’s no wonder even people who can have vaginal orgasms love them!

For lovers of penetration, one of the best masturbation tips we can offer is to use lots of lubricant, and (this should go without saying) ensure whatever you’re using is body-safe, such as your fingers or a purpose-specific sex toy like a dildo or vibrator. Tapered shapes are easier to insert, and a flared base will make removing the item easier afterwards so you can play without worrying about losing the toy inside yourself.

It’s also a good idea to explore the rest of the vulva, especially if you’re in the mood to tease yourself or like to increase pleasure slowly over time. For example, the labia are full of nerves, particularly the labia minora (the ‘inner lips’), and they respond well to gentle stroking, rubbing, as well as the licking or ‘flickering’ motions that vibrating sex toys can offer.

Female masturbation tips and techniques

• Try using up to four fingers to rub the clitoris from side to side, up and down, or in rhythmic circular motions, as slow or as fast as you like. You can tailor the intensity to your liking by changing the pressure level, the number of fingers you’re using, or adjusting the position of your clitoral hood.

• Move your hips to grind against a pillow or other soft but sturdy objects, like a couch arm. The most common position to do this in is cowgirl but it can also work with you lying face down and humping against your stuffed object at a downwards angle.

• Lubricate and insert as many fingers as you’re comfortable with into your vagina, going about an inch deep to where the G-spot usually is. Curl your fingers up slightly and start moving them in a back-and-forth ‘come-hither’ motion, like you’re beckoning your orgasm to come forth!
  
  (The G-spot usually feels a bit rougher in texture compared to the rest of the vaginal tissue, but don’t worry if you don’t hit the spot exactly, this should still feel good if you listen to your body.)

Female masturbation toys

Clitoral stimulators focus on the clitoris but can also be used on other small external erogenous zones like the nipples or perineum, depending on their design. They can vibrate, create contactless suction to generate air pulse-like sensations, or use high-speed licking motions are some of the best masturbation toys for women since they mimic the sensation of oral sex and can be used on any external erogenous zones, from the clitoris to the nipples.

Dildos and vibrators are great penetrative options and come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and designs to satisfy any personal taste. If you’re into backdoor play, butt plugs and anal beads are also a fun way to please your body from the inside!

Here are some Sexyland’s customers’ all-time favourites:

• The Leto Mochi Licking Egg—this palm-sized toy has a tiny tongue-like paddle that flickers back and forth in 7 speeds over all your favourite sweet spots!

• The Rose Vibrator—it’s not hard to see why this bloom’s inspiration took over TikTok in the early 2020s. Its cute floral design has a hollow chamber in the centre of its petals where a thin flap of silicone oscillates back and forth, creating air pulses that stimulate the clitoris without making direct contact.

• The Sexyland Switch Double-Ended Wand Vibrator—this vibrating wand pulls double duty and can be used externally via the round, vibrating head or internally since the handle vibrates and is insertable too!

• The We-Vibe Nova 2—a rabbit vibrator is the best of both worlds in terms of internal and external stimulation, and this rabbit in particular has a specially designed hinge inside the poseable arms that ensures constant contact with both the G-spot and clitoris for maximum pleasure at all times.

For men and people with penises

In most circumstances for people with penises, the most sensitive areas are the tip and the frenulum, which is the elastic band of tissue that joins the underside of the head with the inner surface of the foreskin if you’re uncircumcised, or the end of your shaft if you are circumcised. Of course, the entire shaft and even the testicles can feel incredible when you stroke, rub, or squeeze them, and you can experiment with different techniques like switching up hand positions (focusing on different parts of the penis) and movements (for example, from up and down to twisting motions) to vary up the sensations and discover what you like best.

Outside of the penis, the prostate is a nerve-rich haven of super-sensitive pleasure receptors that men of any sexual orientation can enjoy stimulating. Prostate orgasms will blow more than just your mind and are said to feel far more intense than penile orgasms, or you can try standard anal play toys like anal beads and butt plugs without the prostate focus because those feel good too!

Male masturbation tips and techniques

If you have a penis, chances are you’re already very familiar with the classic stroking motion of making a fist around your shaft and running your hand up and down as it’s often the first way men learn to masturbate when they develop an interest in it around puberty. To spice it up, you can try:

• Adding a twisting motion to your stroking instead of using the standard straight up-and-down action. You can also switch up the number of fingers you use for this, from the full fist to just your thumb and one finger.

• Thrusting back and forth with your hips into your hand or a masturbator toy instead of relying solely on your wrist and forearm movements—this can also help you practice your moves before your next encounter with a partner!

• Edging (stopping yourself from ejaculating just before climax)—many people of all genders swear by this as a great way to intensify orgasm strength, but men in particular say this is a fantastic way to master orgasm control so you can last longer in bed with someone else too…😍

Male masturbation toys

For penis-owners, stroker-style toys and cock rings are the toy options that focus on the penis, surrounding your erection with sensation and, in some cases, helping you last longer in bed!

Otherwise, if you’d like to explore non-penis-based options, prostate stimulators and other anal toys are fantastic picks for men’s masturbation toys. Here are some male customer favourites at Sexyland:

• The Arcwave™ - Ion Pleasure Air™ Stroker—this toy is being hailed as the ‘closest thing akin to a female orgasm for men’ and uses the same Pleasure Air technology that creates those air pulse sensations that women enjoy in clitoral stimulators. The airwaves suck and massage your frenulum specifically for a brand-new type of orgasm that has a more varied buildup, is more intense, lasts longer, and isn't something you can achieve just by stroking!

• The Sexyland Stallion Vibrating Silicone Prostate Plug & Cock Ring—this 2-in-1 sex toy combines the best of both worlds when it comes to topping and bottoming, functioning as a wearable prostate massager with an attached cock ring. The specially shaped plug portion fills your rear and puts the perfect amount of pressure on your P-spot while the stretchy silicone cock ring traps blood flow in your erection to keep it harder for longer, delaying and intensifying your orgasm for an unforgettably explosive finish!

• The Winyi Alan Remote Control Vibrating Cock Ring—longer-lasting erections and stronger orgasms? What’s not to like? This cock ring has 10 whisper-quiet vibration modes that boost sensation for the wearer (and a partner if you want to play with your cock ring together!)

Ready to spend some quality time getting to know yourself this Masturbation May? Indulge yourself this month and shop Sexyland’s masturbation toys online or in-store, or get 2-hour delivery on selected bestsellers so you can jump into the fun in a flash! 😏