Top Sex Toys for Women to Start the Year With Self-Pleasure Confidence

Hey y’all, it’s Nora Jo here, back from a holiday hiatus to start off 2026 with an unforgettable bang and make this year one that’s full of pleasure, satisfaction, and most importantly, self-confidence! After all, life is for living, and after many years of being unfair to my body and needlessly punishing myself as a result, I’ve decided that feeling uncomfortable in my own skin is no way for me to live.

I’ve struggled with my body image for well over two decades now. My weight has yo-yoed with the various ups and downs of life, and with it, my self-esteem. Despite the many assurances my friends’ and partners’ tried giving me, it was hard for me to feel hot when I didn’t feel like I looked hot, but as I’ve learned over the years, there’s more to feeling good about yourself than just looking good…

Why Self-Pleasure Matters for Women

Masturbation. It’s not a dirty word, and it doesn’t have to be treated as taboo, because it’s not something to be ashamed of, no matter what society, religion, or culture you’re from. It’s a normal part of being human, and a wonderful way of getting to know yourself physically and emotionally (including discovering that you’re not interested in masturbation or sex). There’s plenty of research out there that shows that people who masturbate are more likely to have better health, stronger relationships, more fulfilling sex lives, and even higher self-confidence!

Building Confidence In & Out of the Bedroom

How does getting yourself off behind closed doors make you feel like you can take on the world when you’re out in it? The thinking behind it seems to point to a few things:

• The rush of dopamine and oxytocin that floods your brain during an orgasm is a natural mood-booster, and it’s hard not to walk around with your head held high and a pep in your step when you’re full of feel-good chemicals!
  
  

• Owning your own orgasm is empowering, and if you can be an advocate for your own intimate needs, this can translate to standing up for yourself in other aspects of your life!
  
  

• The more in tune you are with your own body, the more in tune you can become with the rest of your being. When you take the steps to understand what makes you feel good physically, it’s only natural that you build your understanding of what makes you feel good emotionally, and by extension, what doesn’t make you feel good, so you can eventually free yourself of it.
  
  

• Frankly, it’s liberating to give yourself permission to feel good, because that’s ultimately what masturbating is: allowing yourself to touch your body, and allowing yourself to enjoy that touch. I learned the hard way that giving yourself permission to feel good means loving yourself, because it’s not possible to have one without the other.
  
  (For anyone who needs to hear it, this inevitably leads to you giving yourself permission to heal too—it might take a while, and it might be so slow going that you don’t feel like there’s any progress to notice, but it’s happening.)
  
  
  

Getting to Know Your Own Body Better

So you want to learn how to pleasure yourself—where do we start? Here’s a breakdown of the best beginner-friendly female erogenous zones to get to know if you’re new to the world of self-pleasure:

• The nipples and areolae—did you know that playing with the breasts lights up the same area of the brain as when you masturbate, producing a similarly erotic sensation? Start by cupping the undersides of your breasts and squeezing them with light to medium pressure. When you’re ready for the sensations to become concentrated in a smaller, more sensitive area, you can gently pinch the base of both nipples between your thumb and index finger, then softly tug them out, or rub the very end of each nipple in circular motions.
  
  Craving more? You can also activate the nipples' temperature-discerning nerves by rubbing an ice cube over them to send a pleasurable chill through your whole body! Just be sure to wet the ice cubes a little beforehand (either with water or by sucking on them a little) so they’re slippery and won’t stick to your skin. You can also try nipple clamps (available in vibrating and non-vibrating options), or even clitoral suction toys since they’ll usually fit and work on nipples too!
  
  

• The vagina and G-spot—the outer edge of the vagina (A.K.A the labia minora) has smooth, super-sensitive skin that enjoys light touch, such as stroking or gentle vibration, while the internal part between the lips responds better to pressure, motion, and fullness. Try teasing the opening of your vagina with one finger, then lubricate it well and insert it inside yourself, curving it as you push it in to have a better chance of hitting the G-spot, which feels slightly rougher in texture compared to the rest of the inner wall. You can try adding a second finger for more fullness, or inserting a curved toy with a bulbous head, like a G-spot vibrator to best target this elusive area.
  
  

• The clitoris—this tiny gland boasts thousands of nerve endings, all packed into a concentrated area, making it your most sensitive erogenous. In fact, it can be so sensitive that you might not like receiving attention there without being warmed up first. Get the blood flowing to the area by tenderly rubbing your belly above the pubic area or your inner thighs before zeroing in on the clitoris. Once you feel like you're turned on enough, move one or two fingertips in circular motions gently over your clitoris, pulling the clitoral hood back if you want more sensation. When you’re ready for more, a vibrating or sucking toy are other great ways to fire up the clitoris—try all of the toy’s various settings and experiment with strengths, intensities, and depths to see what you like best.
  
  
  

Best Sex Toys for Women to Try This Year

If you’re a beginner, the best types of women’s sex toys to try are vibrators and clitoral suction toys because they’re intuitive, meaning they’re easy to use, and they work. After all, nobody wants to be fumbling about with complicated toys when they’re just trying to enjoy themselves!

Sexyland Pamper G-Spot Thumping & Clitoral Suction Stimulator

When Sexyland introduced its first batch of women’s self-pleasure toys to the world, we were all pleasantly surprised at how much of a success the Pamper was, quickly becoming one our most bestselling simultaneous clitoral and G-spot toys of all time! This dual vibrator has a ribbed insertable head that massages your inner walls beautifully as it nestles into place, hands-free. A thumping pad on the tip oscillates back and forth against your G-spot in 10 modes while the flexible neck bends the vibrator to align the hollow chamber over your clitoris so 10 suction settings can whisk you away! Best of all, the whisper-quiet motors make this one of our most popular discreet sex toys for those who prefer a more private pleasure experience… 😏

Leto Mochi 7-Mode Licking Egg Clitoral Stimulator

This little egg is a discreet women’s self-pleasure toy that fits neatly in the palm of your hand, gently cupping your clitoris within its hollow chamber to pamper you with 7 modes of luscious licking thanks to a soft and flexible tongue-like stimulator. The compact size is also a cinch to store away in your bedside drawers or travel bags when you’re on the go!

Sexyland Curve Slim G-Spot & Clitoral Vibrator

This is one of our newer Sexyland toys for women, and one of the best beginner vibrators for women, period. The silky-soft silicone is sculpted into an elongated, angled shape with a slim head that's perfect for cupping your vulva and clitoris, or inserting (with the help of some water-based lubricant). The flexible neck and long handle guide the tip to your G-spot where the ribbed texture lightly massages your inner walls and ensures the 10 vibration modes rumble right where you want them to at just the touch of a button.

Pretty Love Meredith Waterproof Silicone Wand Vibrator

For maximum versatility in sex toys for women, nothing beats wand vibrators. This one’s large round head is made of super-squishy silicone and is perfect for all areas of the body, not just the clitoris. The wireless design lets you move the wand freely without the hassle of a power cord, and this one’s even waterproof so you can enjoy the 35 vibration combos in bed or in the bath!

Ready to climax your way to a new you this new year? Check out our online collection of the best sex toys for women, or shop Sexyland’s range of women’s self-pleasure toys in-store and chat to our team of friendly Fun Specialists to find the perfect toy that will unlock your most confident self.

Now get out there and love yourselves the best way you can.

NJ xx