Top 5 Kinky Ideas & Toys to Spice Up Your Bedroom Fun

Ready to spice it up behind closed doors? If you’re ready to take the kinky sex ideas you’ve read about from your incognito tabs to the bedroom, there are plenty of easy and exciting ways to do it, even if you’re a BDSM beginner! From power dynamics to sex toys you’ve never tried before, there are lots of new pleasure avenues to explore, and having open conversations about it all is not only essential, but also a great opportunity to connect more deeply with your partner or playmate. Establish your boundaries, get enthusiastic consent, and away we go...

Kinky Bedroom Ideas

1. Tie someone up during sex

If you’ve ever fantasised about being tied up or tying up a partner during sex, you’re not alone! Being tied up is about relinquishing control and having implicit trust in someone else while being powerless, and the thrill of anticipating what they might do to you while you’re at their mercy.

If you’re not confident with tying knots in rope, you can try beginner-friendly bondage tape that sticks to itself and not your skin, cuffs that simply buckle or Velcro into place, or even an under-the-bed restraint system for an all-in-one solution that works with any mattress!

2. Try impact play

Impact play involves consensually hitting another person with hands or tools like floggers, spanking paddles, and riding crops. It can be a powerful means of connection, pleasure, and emotional release with a partner, and can serve as either punishment or a treat (A.K.A ‘funishment’), depending on the preferences of the recipient. Both you and your partner should discuss beforehand how intense you want the experience to be, from soft, teasing love taps to harder, less merciful smacks and slaps. BDSM beginners and experts alike can always benefit from brushing up on impact play basics, including where the safest areas to strike are (the body’s most fleshy parts, like the buttocks and thighs, are generally safe bets).

Some of our favourite beginner-friendly kinky sex toys for impact play include this mini flogger that is easy to swing around a single finger, this double-layered riding crop that makes an extra loud SMACK sound without requiring extra force or pain, and this dual-sided spanking paddle that has one firm side and one fluffy side to soothe sore skin.

3. Dress up in a sexy roleplay costume

Embracing a new identity through a costumed roleplay can open up your playful, seductive side and boost your sexual confidence by helping you let go of yourself and the inhibitions that normally hold you back from indulging your deepest desires, even if it’s just for temporary fun behind closed doors. Many roleplay costumes come in pairs, such as doctors and nurses, with a duality of power dynamics like boss and secretary, or with caregiver dynamics like firefighter and civilian, so decide who will be playing what role, and whether both people will be in costume or just one.

Curious about what others are stocking their closets with? Sexyland’s customers can’t get enough of the Poison Rose Plaid Skirt and the matching tie-up top for all their sexy schoolgirl fantasy needs!

4. Wear a collar & leash (or substitute a day collar when in public)

There are many BDSM collar types that can symbolise many things in the world of kink, and it’s a generally held belief within the kink community that a collar goes beyond being a simple object worn around the neck as it represents mutual and consensual trust, respect, and a deep understanding between the Dominant and submissive parties. However, if you’re looking to keep things simple and strictly between you and your partner rather than showing off your collared status among other kinky folks, your collar can just be for play purposes—if you’ve ever fantasised about being your partner’s beloved pet, a collar and leash set is your ticket to being owned and cherished like never before in bed!

Many of Sexyland’s bondage collars either come with or are compatible with leashes if you like adding that extra element of control, and a leash will give the Dominant partner the ability to redirect the wearer’s attention with a firm tug if their eyes are straying and keep them from venturing too far beyond arm’s reach. There are also subtle collars called ‘day collars’ that look more like necklaces or stylish chokers for situations where wearing a fetish collar wouldn’t be appropriate, such as while out and about in public, at work, and so on. These can be a discreet yet powerful symbol that signifies the bond between D/s couples and helps them maintain their connection whenever they’re not physically together.

5. Break out some kinky sex toys

Whether you’re graduating from vanilla vibrators or are starting off your adult toy collection with kinky sex toys, consider what type of stimulation you want to feel physically and how you want to feel emotionally when you use them.

For example, nipple clamps provide an intense pinching sensation and a rush of warmth to the area once the clamps are released, and also have a thrilling power dynamic attached to them as it’s up to the Dominant when the clamps go on and when they come off (unless the sub uses the safeword of course).

Feel like taking roleplay to new levels of out-of-this-world pleasure? A fantasy dildo themed after aliens or monsters is the perfect thing to appease fetishists with unique and unusual tastes, letting you explore penetrative pleasure that goes beyond what realistic human anatomy can offer! Many of Sexyland’s monster dildos are compatible with strap-on harnesses if you and your partner would like to indulge in the fantasy together… 👀

Even regular vibrators can be upgraded to kinky sex toys with the addition of a clever accessory—one of our favourite ideas is to combine a standard vibrating wand with a hands-free arm clamp like the Wand Assist Adjustable Gooseneck Wand Vibrator Holder so you can experiment with forced orgasm play!

Kinky Sex Toys for Beginners

• Scandal® Blackout Eye Mask—comfortable, stylish, functional, and also works as a regular sleep mask. What more could you want in a blindfold? 😉
• Sex & Mischief® Filigree Metal Sensory Fingertips—a chic and captivating pick for anyone looking to take sensation play slowly. Just slip them over your fingers and treat yourself or a partner to your touch, but better!
• Nipple Play® Crystal Chain Nipple Clamps—these beginner-friendly nipple clamps have adjustable tension screws to tailor them to your perfect pinching intensity and are tipped with optional silicone covers for a softer finish against the skin, all in a pretty pink shade with glimmering crystal details along a tuggable chain.
• Yiwu Dual-Ended Feather Tickler & Lace Riding Crop—get the best of both pain and pleasure with this double-ended sensation play toy, with one lusciously soft feather tickler side and a riding crop at the other end for teasing swats and taps when your sub tries to get cheeky with you!
• ZYL Faux Leather Push-Stud Collar & Chain Leash—this vegan-friendly bondage duo offers the stylish look of a BDSM collar and leash set without the intensity of locks or even buckles thanks to the simple push-stud closure that’s easy to get in and out of.
  
  (P.S. There are matching wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs too!)

Non-sexual trust-building kinky ideas

Explore sensation play

Sensation play is essentially any play that engages the senses (touch, smell, taste, sound, and vision) and does not have to involve pain if you don’t want it to—think of unique physical sensations that are not achievable by the human body alone, delicious flavours, heady and hypnotic fragrances, different sources and colours of light, and inspiring soundtracks if you like music to make an appearance when you play together.

Sensation play can also include temperature play, which involves experimenting with hot and cold to stimulate the body in a whole new way! A great method of exploring temperature play is with ice cubes (just remember to make sure the ice cubes are wet so they don’t stick to and burn the skin) or dipping metal objects like chain floggers or metal anal sex toys in cold water to chill them before using them on the recipient. For heat, you can try wax play, either with drip candles or with a massage candle. A scented massage candle pulls double-duty as an aromatherapy aide, and the wax melts into warm massage oil that’s perfect for those long, dreamy strokes as the skin glides under the massage-giver’s palms…

Discover sensory deprivation

While sensation play is about indulging the senses, sensory deprivation is about restricting the senses, which can enhance the remaining senses (e.g. your sense of touch can be elevated if you’re blindfolded) or be used to put a submissive in a vulnerable state to deepen the trusting bond between them and their Dominant (an extreme example would be blindfolding, gagging, and hog-tying a sub while also making them wear noise-cancelling headphones that are playing white noise to deafen them—in any case where someone is unable to move or speak, Sexyland recommends having a non-verbal safeword like the sub holding a set of keys they can jingle at any time).

The easiest way for beginners to explore sensory deprivation is with a simple blindfold, but you can also try tying the sub’s wrists together so they can’t touch anything (or anyone) without your permission!

Try shibari or aesthetic-only rope bondage

Shibari is the Japanese art of tying people up with rope, and it typically focuses on the beauty and aesthetics of the tie rather than the functionality of actually restraining someone for sexual purposes after the tie is complete. Rope bondage can empower everyone to set and respect good boundaries, helps develop better consent-establishing skills, and it also boosts everyone’s confidence by forging a path towards authentic self-expression!

Playing solo? Shibari is also something you can do on your own without a partner if you pick leg or chest harnesses that can be self-tied—the internet and all the video tutorials on it are your friends here… 😉

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