How To Talk About Kinks & Toys With Your Partner

Let’s be real - talking about kinks or telling a partner you want to bring toys into the bedroom can feel a bit awkward at first. Maybe you're wondering how to even bring it up, or if your partner will think you’re a little too adventurous. But here’s the deal - talking about your desires doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. If you do it right, it can be a lot of fun, as well as the key to turning up the heat in your relationship.

Whether you’re excited by exploring new toys or you’re just curious about adding a little kink to your routine, opening up about it can actually bring you closer and make your intimate moments even hotter. 

Why Open Communication About Kinks Matters

Talking about kinks isn’t some taboo conversation reserved for the experts. It’s about being comfortable with yourself and feeling safe enough to share your desires with your partner. Open communication builds trust, helps you both figure out what gets your engines running, and deepens the emotional connection. Plus, it’s way easier to get down to business when you know exactly what turns each other on. Kinks and toys are all about having fun and being open, not making it weird or uncomfortable. 

Trust and Intimacy Start with Honesty

Intimacy is built on trust, and trust comes from honesty. It’s as simple as that. You want to be able to share your sexual needs and fantasies with your partner without worrying about judgment. By talking openly about what you like, you create an environment where both of you can get comfortable with new ideas. After all, the more you communicate, the easier it is to turn those fantasies into a reality. Whether it’s a kinky roleplay or trying out new toys, trust and honesty make the experience all the more satisfying.

How to Talk About Kinks With Your Partner

So, you’re ready to bring up the topic of toys and kinks with your partner. Awesome! Here’s how to do it without the awkwardness.

Choose the Right Time and Setting

First things first, timing is key. Don’t pick a random moment during a stressful dinner or when you’re arguing about who left the laundry in the dryer for three days. Find a chill time when you’re both in a good mood, like after a fun date or while you’re both lounging around in bed. Set the tone with something like, “I’ve been thinking about trying something new in the bedroom” or “I was wondering if you’d be up for exploring some new toys with me.” Keep it light and playful, so it doesn’t feel like a big deal. You’re just introducing some new ways to make things even hotter, no pressure.

The Best Toys to Explore Kinks Together

Now comes the fun part: toys! There are so many options out there, but you want to start with something that feels easy, comfortable, and fun for both of you. Here are some beginner-friendly toys that can help you explore your kinks and make things a little more exciting:

 ZYL Fur-Lined Faux Leather Wrist Cuffs

If you’re looking to dip your toes into the world of restraint play, the ZYL Fur-Lined Faux Leather Wrist Cuffs are a must-have. They give you just the right amount of control, but the soft lining keeps things comfortable. They’re perfect for when you want to explore power dynamics or just add a little restraint into the mix, without going full-on Fifty Shades right away.

Sexyland Rose Vibrator

More than just a pretty face, Sexyland’s Rose Vibrator packs some serious pleasure potential. Whether you’re exploring clitoral sensations or using it on other sensitive zones, this vibrating rose adds a whole new layer of fun to your playtime. It’s beginner-friendly, super easy to use, and is designed to feel as good as it looks. Trust us, this is a toy you’ll want to try together.

Sexyland Pamper G-Spot Thumping & Clitoral Suction Stimulator

When you’re looking for a toy that does it all, the Sexyland Pamper G-Spot Thumping & Clitoral Suction Stimulator is your go-to. This app-controlled beauty combines G-spot thumping and clitoral suction, giving you the ultimate multi-sensory experience. You can play around with the settings, adjusting it to your rhythm, and even let your partner control the action for an added level of thrill, so it can be beginner-friendly and get more intense when you’re feeling it!

Sexyland Surge Vibrating Silicone Cock Ring

Let’s talk stamina. The Sexyland Surge Vibrating Silicone Cock Ring is a fantastic option for those who want to spice things up while also enhancing performance. It delivers pleasure for both partners while helping to maintain a strong, lasting erection. Plus, the added vibrations take things up a notch, making this an easy accessory to introduce without the intimidation factor.

Sexyland Cyclone Super-Power Rotating Vibrating Ribbed Butt Plug

If you’re curious about exploring anal play, the Sexyland Cyclone Super-Power Rotating Vibrating Ribbed Butt Plug is a beginner-friendly toy with plenty of oomph. The rotating beads and vibrations offer an exhilarating mix of sensations, and it’s perfect for both solo play or partnered adventures. If you’re looking to add something a little more adventurous to your toy collection, this one checks all the boxes.

Tips for First-Time Toy Use

First-time toy use is all about exploration and comfort. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re diving in for the first time:

• Go Slow: Start with lighter, gentler settings and see what feels good for you and your partner. There’s no rush, so take your time.
• Talk It Out: Check in with your partner throughout to make sure everything feels right. Don’t be afraid to adjust or try different things.
• Lubrication is Key: Always use plenty of lube, especially when trying new toys. Lube can make everything smoother and more enjoyable.
• Clean Your Toys: Hygiene is crucial. Always clean your toys after use to keep them in top condition for next time.
  

Bedroom accessories and toys are the perfect way to explore new pleasures, add excitement, and keep things fresh in the bedroom. By communicating openly with your partner and trying out beginner-friendly toys, you can enhance your connection, build trust, and take your intimate moments to new heights.

If you’ve had the kink conversation and you’re ready to take the next step, check out our two-hour delivery range for a range of exciting new options!