After A Cheeky Companion? How To Pick The Perfect Dildo For Yourself

If you’ve ever walked into an adult store or shopped for sex toys online, you probably know what it’s like to be greeted by dozens of dildos, either laid out on the shelves or digitally itemised. We know this can be an intimidating sight if this is your first time shopping for dildos, so the Sexyland Fun Specialists are here to dish out the tips to help you buy your perfect dildo!

Things to consider when buying dildos & insertable sex toys

First up, let’s talk size: does it matter? You bet it does, but not in a size queen kind of way (though if that’s your thing, more power to you). Bigger is not always better (especially if you want to use your dildo anally) – this goes for males, females, non-binary people, absolutely everybody. We recommend taking a trip down memory lane and reminiscing about particularly pleasurable penetration experiences (or even ones that, shall we say...didn’t meet or exceed expectations) – how long was the penetrating object? How thick was it? If you haven’t found your just-right Goldilocks size yet, use your experiences and knowledge of your body’s preferences to guesstimate a window of what your ideal size might be and go from there. Once you buy your dildo, there’s also no pressure to use all of it straight away. You can insert as little or as much of it as you like and gradually build up your ability to take more at your own pace.

You’ll also want to be sure there’s no chance of your toy getting stuck or lost inside your body. This is particularly important for anal dildo use, whether you’re male or female. Luckily, almost all dildos these days will have some kind of stopper already built-in, either in the form of moulded testicles or a wide, flared suction cup (which also lets you mount your dong and have some hands-free fun).

As always when it comes to shopping for adult toys, Sexyland recommends checking what material the toy is made of. Since dildos are designed to go inside your body, you want to make sure that the material is body-safe and that you’re using condoms with your dildos (and other insertable sex toys) if you’re sharing them with others. Non-porous materials like silicone are best overall since there’s nowhere for bacteria, mould, and mildew to hide and multiply (provided that you’re cleaning your sex toys, of course). However, materials like thermoplastic elastomers and rubbers are also common dildo materials due to their skin-like softness and natural feeling. Dual-density materials offer a firm inner core and a soft, squishy outside that feels just like a real erection, so this is the way to go if you’re after sex toys that feel like the real deal. And speaking of realism…

Simple vs anatomically correct dildos

Many dildos are based on penises, complete with bulging veins, ridged heads, and even sculpted testicles – some models are moulded from real people such as popular male pornstars, and you can even get DIY dildo kits to keep your partner’s parts close at hand! For some people, a realistic appearance adds an element of visual stimulation that fosters sexual fantasies and imagination while other users aren’t fussed about what their dong looks like as long as it feels good (for example, Sexyland shoppers love these rainbow dildos, and we reckon you will too).

If you’d prefer something non-gendered that doesn’t resemble a lifelike penis, there are plenty of options available for you to enjoy, with unique textures, shapes, and designs that go far beyond the usual scope of phallic fun! From perfectly smooth, almost cylindrical dildos that make insertion a breeze, to dongs with stimulating pleasure nubs, there’s something to suit everyone’s preferences. Dongs with ultra-bulbous heads (realistically phallic or not) are especially great dildos for male anal use and female vaginal use as they’re perfectly shaped to target the prostate (or P-spot) in men and the G-spot for women.

All of these principles apply to double-ended and strap-on dildos as well, so if you’re planning to play with a partner, don’t forget to consult them about their aesthetic and stimulation preferences too. As a general rule of thumb, the person the dildo is going inside of gets to be in charge of what it looks like!

To buzz or not to buzz – vibrating dildos vs non-vibrating dildos

If normal penetration provides you with enough stimulation to keep you happy, great! If you’re in the mood to experience more layers of fun, the next step up is vibrating dildos. Vibration adds a whole new sensation for your intimate areas to enjoy, and there are so many ways to spice it up! For example, app-compatible sex toys and remote control dildos offer a convenient way to change up your settings hands-free, and you can even get a partner involved for some long-distance play, either from across the bedroom or from the other side of the world! For vibrating strap-on dildos, remote control options are especially useful as they let you seamlessly switch things up without having to interrupt your fun together, fumble with onboard buttons, or dislodge your toy in the heat of the moment.

Want even more stimulation? In addition to vibrating, dildos can also rotate, thrust, and squirt to fill you with pleasure (and possibly more)!

If you’d like some tailored advice while shopping for dildos, Sexyland‘s Fun Specialists are ready to help, whether you’re buying sex toys online or shopping at our adult stores in person! Sexyland also offers 1-2 hour delivery on selected dildos with our Quickie Delivery Service if you shop our sex toys online, meaning you can jump straight into the fun!