How to Create A Red Room
23 April 2025
If you’ve ever read Fifty Shades of Gray or watched Netflix’s How To Build A Sex Room back in the day, you might be wondering how anyone (especially in this economy) has space for a room that’s just for sex! But what if we told you that you can transform your space into a sensual play area with just a few key pieces of sex furniture, red room accessories, and just a little mood lighting? Here’s how to create a red room so you can explore erotic fun and have kinky adventures from the comfort of your own home!
What is a red room?
A red room is essentially an NSFW room or play space dedicated to sexy fun, particularly if that fun involves BDSM and fetish elements like bondage, impact play, and sensory deprivation. If you’re into especially kinky scenes, a separate room may be necessary as some of the bondage gear and specific sex furniture can take up a fair amount of space, such as the classic bondage bench/horse or larger impact toys like long floggers and whips. A separate room can also be a great way to mentally compartmentalise different sections of your house so you can get into a roleplaying mindset such as ‘subspace’ more easily.
However, even if you’re short on physical space, it’s still possible to build the sex room of your dreams! All you have to do is get creative with your red room decor, furniture, and accessories…
Decide on your red room’s atmosphere
When deciding what kind of atmosphere you’d like your red room to have, ask yourself how you want to feel and how you want your playmates to feel when they enter the space: do you want to feel relaxed and welcome, or shivering with anticipation of what’s to come?
For a softer vibe, consider having some cosy textures around like (faux) fur throws and plush blankets so everyone who walks in knows that going the extra mile for comfort is a priority here, or you can lean into a more fun angle with thematic red room decor like a burlesque-themed space, plant hangers that look like BDSM harnesses, or even pun-filled kink posters—you can try adding a cute touch with the Leto Bow Bondage Bear, or go for a more casual tone with an Eden’s Vanilla-Scented Candle, which comes in a fun penis shape to lighten the mood!
Otherwise, for a more intense feel, try filling your space with sleek surfaces and have your toys and gear on display when not in use so they’re laid out and ready to go, perfect for setting the tone as soon as you enter the room…
How to get the perfect red room lighting
Mood lighting is everything when you’re trying to set the scene—after all, does anybody feel their sexiest under the harsh and unflattering ‘big light’?
You can achieve cosy, intimate lighting while keeping things simple by placing lamps around the room, and possibly draping cloths over them like a shawl or a scarf to add a touch of colour that also diffuses the light. Alternatively, for a more elaborate setup, you can try adding LED strip lighting around the upper and lower edges of the walls, or even coloured light bulbs—many models these days are smart lights that you can adjust the brightness and colour of through your smartphone for maximum customisation and control.
Prefer to keep things low-tech? A pack of tea lights will do the trick, or you can style long taper candles with elegant candleholders. Drip candles can be used for wax play, as can massage candles, which also double as scented candles to add a touch of aromatherapy to your red room experience!
The best sex furniture & kinky toys for your red room
Red room furniture selection
St. Andrew’s Cross
This full-body restraint is also called an X-cross, X-frame, or saltire cross, and is a classic BDSM equipment staple that is a must-have for any BDSM dungeon. It has restraint points for attaching cuffs to the ankles and wrists, and sometimes the waist and neck too depending on the model. When secured to a St. Andrew’s cross, the captive is restrained in a standing spread-eagle position and can be facing out towards their Dominant (and possibly a crowd of onlookers if you’re playing at a kink event) or facing the cross, which leaves their backside exposed for flogging fun!
The traditional format is a free-standing St. Andrew’s Cross, which commands attention from anywhere in the room. For red rooms that are tight on space, a wall-mounted St. Andrew’s Cross is a great alternative option that still offers the same versatile play.
Spanking bench/bondage horse
This piece of BDSM furniture consists of a raised platform with adjustable restraints and can be used for various forms of impact play, including flogging, paddling, spanking, and caning. Bondage horses like the Bedroom Bliss Lover's Bondage Bench have multiple restraint attachment points that allow for a wide range of positions from standing to kneeling to bending over. Bondage benches are designed with padded surfaces and comfortable, ergonomic shapes that provide a stable platform for the submissive partner to lean on while they take their punishment for long play sessions! The Dominant can find the perfect position to lock their partner into place so they can deliver precisely targeted strikes to the sub's backside, thighs, and other sensitive areas at the perfect angle and height, ensuring maximum impact and sensation…
Sex chair
This heavy-duty BDSM equipment is the perfect piece of sex furniture to add to your dungeon or play space and leaves the captive deliciously trapped with their legs spread and wrists trapped so their Dominant can dish out whatever pleasure or punishment they see fit! Who wouldn’t want to see their playmate helplessly exposed to their lover’s touch and completely at the mercy of every single one of their devious desires? With the help of a sex chair like the Extreme Obedience Sex Chair from Master Series™ you can freely explore impact play, sensation play, forced orgasm and orgasm denial play, or enjoy sensual penetration and affectionate touch—the play possibilities really are limitless!
Essential red room accessories
Whether you’re looking for a vibrating sex machine to take your lover to the edge and back, or automatic thrusting sex machines to please a sub after they’ve earned a good pounding, a sex machine is one of the best accessories to add to a red room. Full-size thrusting models can be adjusted to suit any angle or position, or you can opt for a more portable version like Sexyland’s ever-popular Handbag Sex Machine or even a handheld sex machine option like the Leto Storm! For self-stroking models that suit men and people with penises, there are plenty of masturbator sex machines to choose from that can milk them until they reach a climax that will blow more than just their mind…
No room for a sex chair? No problem! A spreader bar is a useful piece of bondage equipment that spreads and holds a person's limbs apart, usually at the wrists or ankles but can also be applied at the knees or elbows for a more intense spreading effect. They’re compatible with cuffs and rope for versatile restraint play and are almost always adjustable in length to suit the sub’s comfort level and the Dom’s desires.Try using them during standing sex or to push the wearer’s legs back for deeper penetration and G-spot/P-spot stimulation in the missionary position!
If you’re looking for a way to lightly torture a partner (or have a partner torture you), tickle torture is the perfect unbearable yet erotic method to have any sub begging for mercy. Using a feather tickler (or even sensory fingertips) is a great way to engage in sensation play, which is all about playing with the senses in a game of anticipation, teasing, and pleasure. You can combine your feather with sensory deprivation tools like blindfolds or masks to intensify the touch sensations, and speaking of…
Blindfold/bondage mask
Blindfolds are one of the easiest red room accessories to have on hand and just leave in the room so they’re always ready to go. Alternatively, a mask that covers more of the face can offer a more intense experience and can also be a better option for preserving anonymity if you want to play with others or record and share your red room fun. There are even masks to help you embody a different persona for roleplay purposes if you like to dress for your part, like the Yiwu Faux Leather Bunny Mask for some racy rabbit fun!
If you really want to spice things up, have your partner wear a blindfold while you lead them to the red room and take it off once you’re inside, revealing your dungeon of after-dark delights…
Feeling inspired to redecorate and create a red room at home? Shop Sexyland’s Build Your Own Sex Room collection online, or check out our red room decor, furniture, and accessories in person at any of our adult stores!
