Low-Down on Libido - Sexynews #29

Is your idea of getting hot and steamy taking a shower after going for a jog? You're far from alone. A waning libido is a growing and silent epidemic among younger and older women alike.

Lack of sex drive alone isn't a problem. Some women simply don't want sex that often and that’s OK, as long as you’re comfortable with the (in)frequency of your romantic dalliances. But it can be frustrating if you miss the intimacy that goes along with sex. And if you and your partner have mismatched libidos, that can be a big source of relationship problems.

Diagnosing the Issue:

Low libido can be caused by an array of medical and external issues. Luckily, treatments are available to rev up a sluggish sex-drive, pending the cause. Relationship issues, stress, illness, medications, painful sex, anxiety from previous negative sexual experiences and negative body image can all interfere with sexual desire. Pregnancy, breastfeeding and hormonal changes can also do a number on your libido. It may be that you just aren’t enjoying sex as much as you should be because of difficulties in reaching orgasm.

If you notice a drop in your arousal level, it's important to rule out any medical causes first. Yes, it might feel weird talking to your doctor about getting frisky, but medical professionals have heard it all before. Your GP or women’s health specialist can pinpoint problems such as medication side effects, hormonal changes (like perimenopause) or physical health problems that might be interfering with intimacy.

Once medical issues have been ruled out as the primary cause, it’s time to look at the other root causes. These can include stress, body image, lifestyle, etc...

Stress Response:

When we react to stress, our bodies resort to what is called a ‘fight or flight’ response. When we experience this response, we experience an increase in heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate while non-essential functions, like sex drive, are acutely diminished.

This response also triggers a release of hormones, which in high levels can cause decreased sex drive. When stress is chronic, the body uses sex hormones to meet the increased demands for higher cortisol production, decreasing your interest in sex. Menopause in women is also a huge contributing factor to stress and decreased sexual energy. The Raw Essentials Menopause Tea is designed to help nourish and re-balance, helping to alleviate the symptoms that can cause added frustration to women during this time.

Stress Management:  

If you feel that stress is putting a damper on your sex drive, the first thing you should consider is stress management. This may include ridding your life on unnecessary obligations that put time restraints on your day to day activities, getting regular exercise or seeking a therapist. Reduced stress will not only benefit you, but your partner too. Consider taking more one on one time together. Engage in activities that will not only help strengthen your bond, but also help you relax. Giving each other sensual massages. Using massage aids such as the Essential Massage Oils is an excellent way to bond and reduce stress hormones. The Shiatsu 2 In 1- Massage and Glide Gel is an excellent product for luxurious massages and doubles as a smooth lubricant for when you are ready to go!

Focus on Foreplay: 

Having better sexual experiences may increase a person’s desire for sex, thereby boosting their libido. In many cases, people can enhance their sexual experiences by spending more time on touching, kissing, receiving oral sex or using Sex Toys. Toys that are designed to focus on Clitoral Stimulation are especially favourite choices for many women. The Loveline - Sugar Bunny Clitoral Stimulator is ideal for solo or intense couples play.

Benefits of Sex Toys:  

It’s all about quality, not quantity. If the sex is not all that great and you find it difficult to orgasm, having open communication about what you want is essential. Some men are not great at picking up subtle hints, so don’t be afraid to tell or even show him what you want.  Often thought of as a solo activity, Couples Sex Toys can improve their sexual relationship. Using a Sex Toy is a fun way to spice up your relationship whilst boosting a couple’s intimacy. The benefits of using a sex toy are numerous, including keeping your Kegal Muscles toned and your libido charged. The We-Vibe Bloom Kegal Vibrator makes doing your kegel exercises fun and easy. Studies have shown that toning your pelvic floor by doing kegel exercises can dramatically improve your sexual experiences.

Body Image: 

If you feel like you’re unattractive, it leads to lower self-esteem which often leads to a lack in sexual desire, arousal and orgasm. The more critical you are about your body, the more anxiety you will feel about being seen and touched and the less you’ll be able to get into the moment and become aroused. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, including eating well and keeping an exercise routine will dramatically help to boost your self confidence.

Dress Sexy:  

In the meantime, impress yourself! Put away the cotton granny undies and worn out bra and embrace your feminine power. There’s something magical about that lacy bra and matching panties that helps you tap into that erotic feminine power of yours. Something as simple as donning some Sexy Lingerie, even under your work clothes, will help pick up your radiated sexual confidence. The Sexy Bitch Bralette & Strappy Panty Set is comfortable for all day wear and will leave you looking as sexy as you feel. Check out our range of empowering Lingerie Sets for something that’ll help you embrace your power of femininity.

Be Open:  

And remember, you don’t have to be the initiator to enjoy a roll in the hay. You just have to be open to it. It’s like exercise: You may not feel like doing it, but once you start, you’re usually glad you did.